After Graduation Limbo

I hate uncertainty. Everything about “the unknown” absolutely terrifies me and I am perfectly okay with saying that. That time of “limbo” between graduation and “real life” is the most anxiety-producing, heart wrenching, doubtful time and it generally sucks. But I have come to the conclusion that that’s okay and we all will get through it eventually.

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Top from Agací; Jeans from Burlington Coat Factory

There are tons of people telling you what you SHOULD be doing, making it seem like this is such an easy time, all you have to do is check the boxes. Graduate school? Check. Salaried job? Check. Fulfilling career? Check. House, marriage, kids, pets? Check, check, check, check. Except, all of this seems impossible to obtain, and your life feels like it’s just passing you by. Everyone has all of these ideas about what you should be doing but very few are making any actual moves to help you get there. Meanwhile, it seems like everyone you went to school with has figured out how this adulthood thing works perfectly.

In reality we are all just taking it one day at a time and don’t really have any idea of what we are doing. Unfortunately “adulthood” does not come with a user guide as soon as you graduate. Everyone has a different path and different goals and it takes time to figure those out and make them happen. So don’t be discouraged if you feel like you are falling behind.

However, do not allow this time to put you into a lull of doing nothing. Go and apply for those jobs you think you are unqualified for. Go and meet people that are where you would like to be and ask them how they got there. Do whatever you think it takes to help you achieve your goals and ignore all of the people telling you what you should be doing because there is no set of instructions that you have to follow. No one knows what you should be doing besides you, so take some time to figure that out, without letting that doubt stop you from dreaming as big as you can.

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Wallet from Kate Spade

It is going to be a very hard road to achieving your dreams. Everyday you have to remind yourself of who you are and what you want to achieve. Constantly reminding yourself that you are you and not anyone else, that your dreams are yours and no one else, having mantras and affirmations that remind you of what you want, using vision board to have a clear illustration of who you want to become. Put in all of the effort you can to remind yourself of your dreams and make them happen and, in time, everything will turn out okay.

 

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3 Comments Add yours

  1. Anonymous says:

    Best one yet

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  2. Claire says:

    Yes, yes, yes! It’s okay to be in a small limbo after graduation but never beat yourself up over the limbo! All we can do is just live life day by day and push for something you want, and not fall into a deeper limbo. I graduated 1.5 years ago and thought I needed to follow the generic “job, house, marriage, kids” life plan but in reality, I did find a nice salary job, buuut I’m moving across the world and putting my career on hold instead. Life has no guide but as you said, it’s important to work towards our goals rather than let doubt settle in.

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    1. kstevens18 says:

      Yes!! I have to keep reminding myself of this everyday but I know once I focus on doing what makes me happy instead of trying to follow a set plan things will fall into place. Thanks for this!!

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